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**dyer** · 12:54 AM

Hi every body,

Why does one feel attracted at the first sight to some people and feel repulsion for others?

Opinions are greatly appreciated.

Awakened to the meaning of my heart,
That to feel love and oneness is to live
And this the magic of our golden change
Is all the truth I know or seek...

**DaveMo~** · 02-25-2008, 01:25 AM

I think you answered that with the word "opinions". Everyone has an opinion. Based upon those opinions are the biases: what they like and what they don't like. Some of those opinions are based on how they were taught and raised and even through the groups of people they were with and the area they were in. Add all that, and a person already has a "shallow" outward picture of what is good and bad. I say shallow, because if all one ever basis their opinion of another on is their external looks, then IMO they are very superficial.

I think it's really hard not to be that way, but people can overcome prejudices and not make lasting, first minute impressions. I don't think they can overcome having a first impression, but they can realize that the first impression may not be what that person is really like.

I admit that I didn't fall in love with my Hunni because she would fit in "my" ugly mold, she is definitely in my PHAT mold. Even with that in mind, I've met some pretty ugly people that were very pretty outside, and vice versa.

Make sense?

Dave

**dyer** · 02-25-2008, 02:03 AM

Yes I agree with you. But There is only one love, eternal, universal, equal for everyone and everything.

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but they can realize that the first impression may not be what that person is really like.

Its man ( The Human Being ) who calls all kinds of feeling "LOVE" : all the desires, vital exchanges, sexual relations, attractions, attachments, even friendship, and many other things besides.

But all that is not even shadows of love nor even its deformation.

These are all mental and vital, sentimental or sexual activities, and nothing more...

... and that being to be true love: one loves because one loves, not at all because one receives a response to one's love or because the other person loves you. All those conditions - that is not love. One loves because one cannot do otherwise but love. One loves because one loves. One doesn't care at all what will happen; one is perfectly satisfy with the feeling of one's love. One loves because one loves.

All the rest is bargaining, It is not Love.

DYER

**DaveMo~** · 02-25-2008, 02:27 AM

Though I mentioned that I fell in love and that may have changed the course of this thread, your question asked nothing about love. It was about attraction and repulsion when first meeting someone. My example about was not about love, but about the attraction that I had for my Hunni when I first met her.

If your question had been about "love at first sight", then I would have had a different response. So I think this went away from the first question.

Oops, I just noticed the title of the thread which is Love at the first sight. I didn't answer the thread title; I answered the post content. My mistake, the love factor I guess was assumed because of the title.

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I will give you an answer to your "love" post. You're right that most English speaking people use the word "love" for love, lust, brotherly love, parental love, love of a god, love of inanimate things, love for animals, love for actions, etc. There are other languages, especially Greek, that have different words for the different types of love.

IMO, since there are different types of love, there is in no way universal and equal love for everyone and everything.

We may be talking semantics, because I don't know what your definition of "love" is. Define what love is, and people may or may not agree with your philosophy on it.

Dave

**dyer** · 03:01 AM

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We may be talking semantics, because I don't know what your definition of "love" is.

I thought that first to collect people thoughts about love and then to say my answer about LOVE. Any way you asked

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Define what love is

here it is....

Love is one of the greatest universal force; it exists by itself and its movement is free and independent of the objects in which and through which it manifests.

It manifests where ever it finds a possibility for manifestation, where ever there is receptivity, where ever there is some opening for it.

What you call love and think of as a personal or individual thing is only your capacity to receive and manifest this universal force. But because it is universal, it is not therefore an unconscious force; it is a supremely conscious power. Consciously it seeks for its manifestation and realization upon the EARTH;

Men think that they have suddenly fallen in love; they see their love come and grow and then it fades - or, it may be, endures a little longer in some who are more specially fitted for its more lasting moments. But their sense in this of a personal experience all their own was an illusion. It was a wave from the everlasting sea of UNIVERSAL LOVE.

Love is an Universal & Eternal; it is always manifesting itself and always identical in its essence. Love doesn't manifest in human beings alone; it is every where. Its moment is there in plants, perhaps in very stones; In animals it s easy to detect its presence.

Love the eternal force, has no clinging, no desire, no hunger for possession, no self-regarding attachment;

Love gives itself and ask for nothing.

**dyer** · 02-25-2008, 04:53 AM

Any body else having doubts or thought, you can post. I'll answer for your doubts.

**charity** · 02-25-2008, 12:55 PM

I would say first impressions. It matters a lot. And it's one of the key factors to love or hatred. The way an individual presents him or herself at the very first meeting. That prepares the ground for what is to follow.

**dyer** · 04:06 PM

Yes, You are right

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The way an individual presents him or herself at the very first meeting.

LOVE at the first sight:
Usually this is based on vital affinities, nothing else. There are vital vibrations which hormonise and vital vibration which don't. Is usually this, nothing else. It is vital chemistry.

Now anybody answer,

Before our nature is transformed, can a person Love another Truly?

**fastreplies** · 02-25-2008, 04:49 PM

I wouldn’t call it love.

I would call it mutual chemistry, visual attraction, instant acceptation, sexual excitement at the first sight but not love.

Love is more than just feeling horny instantly and desire to resolve your urge in bed, love is thoughts that generated by your brains in process of knowing your partner and accepting the person as a whole.

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**dyer** · 02-25-2008, 05:16 PM

Obviously there are some natures which are almost fundamentally bad, beings who are born wicked and love to harm... But happily these cases, are not very frequent; what one meets in life are usually very mixed nature...

**LadynRed** · 02-25-2008, 05:30 PM

Well, in reality it goes deeper than opinion, closer to 'chemistry' but not exactly. A great deal of it is based in human anthropology - back in those days when women chose mates based on their abilities to provide for and protect their children, and men chose mates based on the strength, viability and numbers of the children they bore. Science shows that we have retained some of this even at our current stage of social evolution. Scientists also show that there are 4 basic 'stages' to "love".

Love at first sight ? I don't think you can accurately call what you might feel at 'first sight' as an ever-lasting love. Instant attraction - yes. Instant love -- I have a hard time with that one.

**dyer** · 02-25-2008, 05:46 PM

Of course. But likes and dislikes clearly belong to the vital world. Well there is vital chemistry just as there is a physical chemistry: there bodies which repels each others and other which attract; there are substance which combines and others which explode, and it is like that. There are some vital vibrations which harmonise, and harmonise to such an extent that 99/100 these sympathies are taken for what men call LOVE, and suddenly people feel, "Oh! he is the on I was waiting for", "Oh!
she is the one I was seeking for" (Laughing) and they rush towards each other

"Love is every where. Its moment is there in plants, perhaps in very stones"

Let us see who will agree the above point

**Learning Newbie** · 02-25-2008, 05:47 PM

Are we talking about the kind of sight you do with your eyes, or the kind you put together using CSS and (x)HTML, then view using FireFox?

**dyer** · 02-25-2008, 05:53 PM

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Are we talking about the kind of sight you do with your eyes, or the kind you put together using CSS and (x)HTML, then view using FireFox?

Sure, we are talking about sight & love. That could be the signature. Buddy

"Love is every where. Its moment is there in plants, perhaps in very stones"

Let us see who will agree the above point

Dyer

**fastreplies** · 02-25-2008, 05:59 PM

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Originally Posted by dyer

Let us see who will agree the above point
Dyer

Ok, but then you must first to define to us LOVE

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**dyer** · 02-25-2008, 06:03 PM

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you must first to define to us LOVE

I have defined already

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here it is....

Love is one of the greatest universal force; it exists by itself and its movement is free and independent of the objects in which and through which it manifests.

It manifests where ever it finds a possibility for manifestation, where ever there is receptivity, where ever there is some opening for it.

What you call love and think of as a personal or individual thing is only your capacity to receive and manifest this universal force. But because it is universal, it is not therefore an unconscious force; it is a supremely conscious power. Consciously it seeks for its manifestation and realization upon the EARTH;

Men think that they have suddenly fallen in love; they see their love come and grow and then it fades - or, it may be, endures a little longer in some who are more specially fitted for its more lasting moments. But their sense in this of a personal experience all their own was an illusion. It was a wave from the everlasting sea of UNIVERSAL LOVE.

Love is an Universal & Eternal; it is always manifesting itself and always identical in its essence. Love doesn't manifest in human beings alone; it is every where. Its moment is there in plants, perhaps in very stones; In animals it s easy to detect its presence.

Love the eternal force, has no clinging, no desire, no hunger for possession, no self-regarding attachment;

Love gives itself and ask for nothing.

**Moxxnixx** · 02-25-2008, 06:16 PM

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Originally Posted by dyer

I have defined already

You mean to tell me that you feel all of that "at first sight"???
That's a little too freaky for me.

I'm with LnR...instant attraction is much more plausible than instant love.

**dyer** · 02-25-2008, 06:27 PM

As Dave said in my opinion

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"love" is love, lust, brotherly love, parental love, love of a god, love of inanimate things, love for animals, love for actions, etc.

But My my thread Question is

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Why does one feel attracted at the first sight to some people and feel repulsion for others?

Do you have answer for that?

Dyer

**fastreplies** · 02-25-2008, 07:12 PM

Because in first case you are using your emotion and in second, your brain

Blond stupid bimbo will have more chances than smart overweight woman
thus proving how shallow we are physiologically when its come to whole package

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**dyer** · 02-25-2008, 07:25 PM

Yes ofcourse We need to clarify our thought in all other angles.

ok, now, Tell me,

Before our nature is transformed, can a person Love another Truly?