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**Xyle101** · 11-04-2008, 03:06 AM

Right now I can't organize my time because I think I mess up with my life I am 21 years old and I've made a big mistake because I think I am too young My girlfriend got pregnant and we didn't know about it but yesterday I'm on my way to go to my work but suddenly my Cell phone rang and I don't know who it is because the number was not registered in my phone and she tells he was the friend of my girl and she's saying that my girlfriend was miscarriage and I don't know if I'll believe it. It got me think twice because I just receive a memo from my office that if I didn't go to work I will be Suspended So I just think deeply which will I go for so I decided to go to the hospital to check my girl? am I did the right thing?.
And Just an hour ago I am leaving the hospital to go to my work but the father got angry to me and just said that I can't go because he's accusing me that I am abandoning his daughter which is not true. And I promise that I will be back after my work but the sad part is he tells me that tomorrow I will not leave the hospital because It is my duty to guard her daughter because its my fault and the have a lot of job to do. But if I will not report to office tomorrow no matter what the reason is I will be terminated. I am very confused right now guys I don't know which way to go.
is it right to just abandon my work and got to be terminated or just leave my girl there at the hospital alone.
I am very confused right not but I really love my girl but what about my job.

**chrishirst** · 11-04-2008, 03:32 AM

Should have seen that coming! (He says, noting the signature sites)

**TeewhY** · 11-04-2008, 05:11 AM

^lol chris

my advice to you is don't abandon your work, you know how hard to get a job these days. and besides she is in the hospital already so you can be assured that she is taken cared by nurses and doctors.

**Xyle101** · 11-04-2008, 08:13 AM

Thank you bro for the advice, I don't know If I will be happy for loosing a child because I can't handle the life of the father because I am too young or not because I lost my first baby, but every time I think of it, its like my heart is beating very fast and my my tears are falling down from my eyes and its strange I don't know why am I filing like this, I am very confused right now and beside my Parents doesn't know right now what happen to my girlfriend I'm afraid to tell them. Good to have in this forum I can express what I feel because right now all of my friend are very busy in school and some are busy in there job.

**KML9870** · 11-04-2008, 04:00 PM

Here is the advice from a girl. The worst thing during a miscarriage is to feel alone. If your girlfriend understands your situation at work, then you are okay. If she feels you are abandoning her then she may never forgive you. It has nothing to do with her parents or yours. The two of you created the situation - not them, you are the ones who have to deal with it. The only right and wrong in dealing with the situation (other than proper medical care) is to not pay attention to the other person. Whether you were ready to be a parent or not does not matter anymore. You became parents and do not have a child to show for it. You both need to grieve and you need to help each other grieve.

**Aadriyah** · 11-04-2008, 06:49 PM

Sorry to hear about that bro.. it's really hard to choose bet. your love and your work, but take note of this... Life is very hard and if you will stop from working, what will become of you?of her? your future family?. You must let her understand your situation too, besides you won't neglect her, right? Just manage your time well.

**juliensimon** · 11-04-2008, 07:09 PM

you gotta do what your guts tell you.
We can't really give good advice as every relationship is different. Whatever we say, in the end, you will be the one make the final call.
- On one hand: love lasts forever (sometimes) and work is temporary so go spend time with her during this difficult time
- On the other hand: what will happen if you loose your job? Will you be able to find another one easily or was it a hassle to find this one? Do you have any money saved up to pay hospital bills?

There is a lot more in the pictures than what you just told us.
Do whatever feels right. Talk about it with your wife! You should ask her how she feels about it and take that decision together.

Sorry about your lost.